Introducing Love and Logic

Tonight I am giving my Love and Logic® talk at a school to a group of Montessori parents. Tonight’s talk is a 90 minute overview of the entire six week class and some of the main principles. Here is a brief explanation:

This program is known as Parenting with Love and Logic, a philosophy founded by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., and based on the experience of a combined total of over 75 years working with and raising kids.

Many parents want their kids to be well prepared for life, and they know this means kids will make mistakes and must be held accountable for those mistakes. But these parents often fail to hold the kids accountable for poor decisions because they are afraid the kids will see their parents as being mean. The result is they often excuse bad behavior, finding it easier to hold others, including themselves, accountable for their children’s irresponsibility.

Jim Fay teaches us that we should “lock in our empathy, love, and understanding” prior to telling kids what the consequences of their actions will be. The parenting course Becoming a Love and Logic Parent teaches parents how to hold their kids accountable in this special way. This Love and Logic method causes the child to see their parent as the “good guy” and the child’s poor decision as the “bad guy.” When done on a regular basis, kids develop an internal voice that says, “I wonder how much pain I’m going to cause for myself with my next decision?” Kids who develop this internal voice become more capable of standing up to peer pressure.

What more could a parent want? Isn’t that a great gift to give your child? Parent child relationships are enhanced, family life becomes less strained, and we have time to enjoy our kids instead of either feeling used by them or being transformed from parent to policeman. (taken from What is Love and Logic® for Parents)

If you are interested in learning more about the Love and Logic® approach to parenting developed by Jim Fay, Dr. Charles Fay and Foster Cline visit their website at LoveandLogic.com. If you are interested in starting a class in the Milwaukee area, get in touch with me to set one up. In the meantime, I will be writing about Love and Logic® principles and ideas here on the blog. If you have taken a class before and have questions or thoughts, this is a good place to get some feedback.